Dating man with children
The kids’ main residence is with her, and Adam has the kids a few days a week.The ex constantly sends Adam texts about the kids, from mundane details to complaints about their behavior.Dear Therapist, I’ve been dating Adam for two and a half years.I’m 33 and childless, and he’s 48, divorced, and the father of three kids.If he doesn’t respond to his ex’s calls for help with the kids, he might worry that they aren’t okay and that he’s neglecting their needs.But if he does respond, he might worry that he’s making you feel angry or unimportant.One option might be for Adam and his ex to see a therapist who can help them navigate their co-parenting arrangement, creating parameters and offering tools for handling the kids when his ex is alone with them.
It sounds like Adam is trying to please everyone and ends up feeling trapped.
We seem to keep having the same fights about his needy ex-wife and the negative impact she has on our relationship.
Despite my wish to appear mature and chill, I have a strong distaste for the ex-wife.
Quite often she calls Adam hoping that he can “set them straight.” I’m certain that she’s the cause of all that chaos, because the kids never go out of control with Adam, and I’ve only seen them be pleasant.
Every time Adam’s ringtone goes off, my stomach churns because I feel so violated and intruded on by her.