Dating older gentleman
An older guy might tend to be more reliable and committed than a much younger one — bonus!
— but that could prove to be problematic if he’s keen to rush into a serious relationship and you’re stalling.
When you and your boyfriend hang out with your folks, it sometimes feels like they get along so much better than you do with any of them. It’s possible he’ll want to stay in on most Saturday nights or give you an alarmed look when you suggest going to a rave with your best friends.
Compromise can be tougher because you want such different things. Of course he’ll probably have more exes than you do, but it’s not so much the quantity, but the quality of them.
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You will probably need to be prepared to be lower on his list of priorities sometimes, even if his children are grown up. If he doesn’t, are you prepared to sacrifice your desire for children to find love?He’s been married, perhaps he’s fathered kids, maybe he’s gone through a divorce. It’s not just what he’s already experienced in his life that can make you feel you don’t have much in common, but also his ideas for the future. Since he’s quite a bit older than you, it’s not always easy for him to understand what you’re going through, such as if you’re trying to turn your job into a career or buy a house. It kinda sucks not to be with someone who always understands the problems you’re going through and can experience them for the first time with you. Since he’s got so much more life experience, he might turn into a bit of a dad while trying to help you out. They might throw shade, assuming you’re just having a fling or dating the guy because you’re a gold digger.When chatting about previous relationships, his experience level leaves you in the dust. He might have already been married and/or had kids, causing him not to want these things from here on out. It really sucks, especially when you have genuine feelings for the guy.We’re not saying older men will be completely inflexible but you shouldn’t think you can change their ways once you’re in a relationship.That’s not to say they will completely lack a youthful mindset: a study by Nickelodeon UK found that men remain ‘immature’ well into their early 40s, while women mature at an average age of 32 We use cultural references to express who we are and where we’ve come from.